Tragic Graduation Day Murder-Suicide: Wife of Jeremy Koch Had Desperately Pleaded for Help Days Before

A devastating murder-suicide in Nebraska has left a community reeling and a family shattered. On May 10, what was supposed to be a celebration of high school graduation turned into unthinkable tragedy when authorities discovered the bodies of a mother, father, and their two teenage sons—all fatally stabbed inside their home.

At approximately 9:45 a.m., the Dawson County Sheriff’s Office responded to a call at a residence near Johnson Lake, Nebraska. Inside, they found 42-year-old Jeremy Koch, his wife Bailey Koch, 41, and their sons Hudson, 18, and Asher, 16. All had sustained knife wounds. Authorities believe Jeremy carried out the murders of his wife and children before taking his own life.

“What I saw will haunt me for the rest of my life,” wrote Bailey’s father, Lane Kugler, who was the one to discover the bodies that morning.
Jeremy and Bailey had been married for over 25 years and were widely known for their joint mental health advocacy. The couple had co-created a Facebook page, Anchoring Hope for Mental Health, to share resources and offer support to those struggling with mental illness.

Despite their public commitment to raising awareness, behind the scenes, Bailey had been fighting to save her husband’s life.

A Desperate Fight Against Mental Illness

According to relatives, Jeremy Koch had been battling severe mental health issues since at least 2009, including multiple suicide attempts. Bailey often spoke openly about his condition on their joint social media accounts, pleading for understanding and support.

“May is mental health awareness month,” Bailey wrote earlier this month. “So here we are… making you aware.”

Just days before the incident, Bailey launched a GoFundMe campaign in hopes of rallying more support for Jeremy’s ongoing treatment. In a candid update posted May 3, she revealed that her husband had survived at least four previous suicide attempts and was undergoing intensive care.

The same day, Jeremy was hospitalized and diagnosed with severe dehydration and malnutrition. He was released from inpatient care on May 8—just two days before the tragedy—prompting a hopeful post from Bailey, who was relieved he would be home in time to attend Hudson’s graduation ceremony.

“I wish I had better news, as Jeremy was so happy to be released from the mental health hospital yesterday,” Bailey wrote on May 8. “To go home in time for the high school graduation of our oldest son, Hudson.”
But the hopeful moment was tragically short-lived.

A Family’s Final Plea

Back in March, Bailey had disclosed a chilling incident that foreshadowed the horrific events to come. In a social media post, she recalled waking up to find Jeremy standing over her with a knife, whispering that “something is wrong.” She managed to de-escalate the situation that night, persuading him to seek treatment. But it was clear that Jeremy’s mental health was deteriorating.

Her posts were raw, transparent, and increasingly urgent.

“Mental illness is taking my husband from me,” she once wrote. “And I’m begging you to open your eyes and see the reality that is this society’s mental health crisis.”
Bailey’s father, Lane Kugler, later wrote that Jeremy’s depression had progressed into psychosis, and that the man he knew and loved was not the one who committed these unimaginable acts.

“It was not Jeremy who committed this horrific act,” he said. “It was a sick mind.”
A Community Grieves, and a Message Echoes

This heartbreaking incident has reignited calls for increased awareness, funding, and compassion surrounding mental illness. The Anchoring Hope page, now flooded with condolences and grief-stricken messages, serves as a haunting reminder that even those advocating for others can be quietly facing battles too heavy to bear alone.

The community continues to mourn the loss of a mother, two sons, and a man overtaken by a long and painful illness. But perhaps their story—shared so publicly, so bravely—will serve as a sobering call to action.