Becoming a mother was the most transformative experience of my life. I cherished every moment, but the lack of support from my husband made things far more difficult than I had imagined. When our washing machine broke, his response to my request for a replacement or repair left me utterly shocked—and questioning our marriage.
Motherhood was a blessing, but the overwhelming responsibilities quickly became a burden. My husband, Trevor, worked but contributed nothing to household chores, leaving me to juggle everything alone. The never-ending piles of laundry only added to the exhaustion.
Then, one day, the washing machine broke.
“Trevor, the washing machine isn’t working,” I told him. “We need to either fix it or get a new one. The baby’s clothes are piling up.”
His response was almost indifferent. “Maybe next month, babe. I promised my mom I’d use this paycheck to send her on vacation.”
I was stunned. “A vacation? Why?”
“She babysits sometimes, so I think she deserves it,” he replied.
“Babysits?” I repeated, incredulous. “She comes over, sits on the couch, and eats our food. That’s not babysitting.”
But Trevor was firm—his mother’s vacation came first.
“You’ll survive washing clothes by hand for a while,” he added dismissively. “People have been doing it for centuries.”
I was too shocked to argue. The next day, I scrubbed every piece of laundry by hand, my skin stinging from the soap and detergent. But instead of resigning myself to this new reality, I decided to teach Trevor a lesson.
A couple of weeks later, I packed his lunch as usual—except instead of food, I filled his lunchbox with stones and a note. If he wanted me to live like a 19th-century housewife, then he should experience life as a 19th-century worker.
The note read:
“Men once earned their daily bread with their own hands. Go forge your meal, spark a fire with these stones, and cook it over a flame.”
His reaction was exactly as I expected.
When he got home, he was furious. “What the hell, Marina? I was humiliated in front of my coworkers! Are you crazy?”
I met his anger with calm. “Oh? So public embarrassment is unacceptable when it happens to you, but me washing endless laundry by hand is just fine?
“And if you ever prioritize your mom’s needs over mine again, you’d better learn how to start a fire with those stones.”
Trevor was still fuming, but deep down, he knew I was right.
The next day, I had a brand-new washing machine—and Trevor had learned his lesson.