What Is True Love And How Can I Find It…?
This quote does a great job of summing up what true love is all about. True love is not having a perfect relationship. It’s not having a perfect person or being a perfect person either. Furthermore, it’s not about believing in clichés like “love means never having to say you’re sorry”. If you genuinely love someone, expressing sorry does not imply that you are arguing over who is right or wrong; instead, being sorry or saying sorry might mean mending a heart that longs for love and understanding. True love is not about always getting along, always having the best circumstances, or always having things easy with your partner.
But don’t get discouraged; true love is still an amazing thing. But, it’s not what it looks like in the media.
What Does True Love Feel Like?
Many people think that the feelings that they experience at the beginning of a relationship signal true love. It’s exciting when things are brand new: butterflies in your stomach, blushing, flirting. It’s an exciting time in a relationship and while these are great feelings, they don’t necessarily indicate true love.
True love is felt over time as two people get to know each other. It isn’t something that you can feel instantaneously for someone because you don’t understand who they are or their character yet.
But, true love can feel even better than those beginning phases of love. While electricity and chemistry might not always there, the relationship has the potential to grow into something that is so much deeper. It offers the comfort of being able to be completely you with no fear of judgment.
Overall, true love can bring up many emotions. There are days when you may feel like everything is right with the world, and then there will be days that challenge you more than you thought possible. But you love your partner, and you’re willing to stick it out with them even during the difficult times.
True love might not feel the same for everyone, and that’s all right. Each person is different, and each relationship is different. But, true love should never make you feel bad about yourself. If guilt, shame, and embarrassment are a constant part of your relationship, then it’s something that should be addressed. This is a sign of an unhealthy relationship and not one of true love.
How To Know That It’s Not True Love
Some people confuse true love with behaviors that are more related to codependency, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing. True love is not going to try to control you. Someone who loves you will want you to be your unique self. They’re not going to make unjust demands or expect you to always give in when a compromise needs to be made.
True love is not going to require unrealistic expectations from you. A partner who truly loves you will not threaten you or push you into doing things that make you uncomfortable.
If someone truly loves you, they will be committed to you. They’re not going to have another person on the side or do anything else that would break your trust. A people who truly loves you will not constantly compare you to others because they allow you to be yourself.
